Mindfulness Practice:
Loving Kindness
Loving Kindness
The Loving Kindness meditation offers the potential to increase and strengthen a range of positive emotions, including love, joy, gratitude, contentment, hope, pride, interest, amusement, and awe. Studies have shown that practicing the Loving Kindness meditation regularly can help to increase several personal resources such as mindful attention, self-acceptance, positive relationships with others, and good physical health.
Builds empathy, compassion, and kindness toward self and others
Supports emotional regulation and stress reduction
Improves focus, attention, and readiness to learn
Strengthens positive peer relationships and classroom climate
Encourages self-awareness and positive self-talk
Instructions:
1. Lying on the floor or sitting in a chair, find a comfortable posture that feels relaxed and alert, noticing how you adjust to find this feeling. Rest your hands on your lap. Close your eyes or soften your gaze. Take a few deep breathes, letting go of tension throughout the body.
2. Take a few rounds of either the Complete Breath or Balanced Breath.
3. Soften your focus away from your breath and bring to your attention someone you really love. This person should come to you easily. This can be anyone, a pet, a family member, a friend, etc. When you have that person in mind, imagine sending this person love and kindness. Breathe in these phrases and exhale them out, sending them to that person you love:
May you be happy.
May you be well.
May you be safe.
May you be at peace.
4. Soften your focus away from this loved one gently and bring yourself to your attention. Imagine sending yourself feelings of love and compassion. If this is difficult, it may help to imagine yourself from the perspective of someone who loves you. Breathe in these phrases and exhale them out, sending them to yourself:
May I be happy.
May I be well.
May I be safe.
May I be at peace.
5. Now bring your attention to a neutral person. This can be someone you may see on a regular basis but do not know they name or anything personal about them, such as someone you see on a morning walk. Bring that person into your mind and focus on sending them feelings and wishes of love and compassion. Breathe in these phrases and exhale them out, sending them to this person:
May you be happy.
May you be well.
May you be safe.
May you be at peace.
6. Bring your attention now to a person you have a difficult relationship with right now. This can be anyone. Focus your attention on sending this person love and compassion. This may be difficult to do and may bring up a lot of strong and powerful feelings. It may be helpful to imagine this person as a baby to be able to see them as more vulnerable and in need of love and care. Breathe in these phrases and exhale them out, sending them to this person:
May you be happy.
May you be well.
May you be safe.
May you be at peace.
7. Finally, soften your focus away from this person and focus your attention on a larger group of people. Imagine your family, your co-workers or classmates, your neighborhood as a collective of individuals, the state, the country, the world. Imagine as big as possible. Imagine sending love , kindness, and compassion to everyone. Breathe in these phrases and exhale them out, sending them to everyone:
May we be happy.
May we be well.
May we be safe.
May we be at peace.
8. Let go of your focus and return to noticing the breath in the body. Take three full and complete letting go breathes, breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. When you are ready flutter your eyes open and notice any feelings, thoughts, or sensations that may be left after this practice.
Get comfortable and breathe
Sit or lie down and take a few slow breaths.
Send kindness to yourself.
Silently say: “May I be safe. May I be happy. May I be calm.”
Send kindness to others.
Think of someone you like (or your class, a pet, or the world) and send them the same kind wishes.
Finish and notice.
Take a deep breath, stretch, and notice how your body feels.
Teaching Cues for Students
Implementation & Development
See our Child Development Page for more information to help tailor your instruction to best meet the needs of your students.
All children learn best given clear, concise, instructions, trying to reduce directional cues down to 4 steps.
Enjoys learning through games, songs, and stories. Cues for Balloon Breath can be incorporated into a song or a rhyme to make it more playful.
Keep it very short and concrete (30–60 seconds).
Use simple, repeated phrases (“Be safe. Be happy.”).
Focus on self, pets, or caregivers before others.
Use gestures or visuals (hands on heart, heart drawing).
Avoid forcing emotional sharing—listening is enough.
Still enjoy routine, learning through games, group activity.
Keep guidance clear and predictable (1–3 minutes).
Explain kindness as a skill the brain practices.
Offer choice about who receives kind wishes.
Normalize mixed or neutral feelings.
Use brief reflection or art instead of verbal processing.
As adolescence begins and continues, students will start to feel preoccupied with body image. It is important to cultivate a safe space for students to practice the Balloon Breath where they don’t feel singled out and they have the option to close their eyes or to soften their gaze.
Use respectful, non-sentimental language.
Emphasize choice and autonomy at all times.
Allow neutral or self-focused phrases if others feel hard.
Keep practice optional and non-performative.
Connect kindness to stress regulation and boundaries, not obligation.
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Helpful Hints
Never overdo any breathing exercise or force your breath into a pattern that is uncomfortable. If you begin to feel anxious or lightheaded, stop practicing and breathe normally.
Practice with self-compassion and non-judgement.
Feel free to change the phrases to ones that feel more true to you and your practice, ensuring they are messages of love and compassion.
The Loving Kindness meditation can be done from a seated, standing, or reclining position.
Content from NYCDOE YMTP² curricular materials